Review: More Than Just The Talk: Becoming Your Kids’ Go-to
Person about Sex
Jonathan McKee
Bethany House Publishers
2015
At last!! It’s OK to
say “sex” and not spell it or find some euphemism for it. And this is a biblically based book. We’re off to a good start already.
McKee has two primary
themes throughout the book. Don’t freak
out, and talk to your kids often. He
admits the conversations can be awkward since most of us have grown up
whispering about this subject. The kids
today, just like we were once upon a time, need good information and guidance
related to sexual behavior delivered in a loving environment in rational
discussions. What is appropriate, how
far, what about same sex attractions, are certain practices really sex? There’s more, but you get the idea.
As he makes abundantly clear, the messages found in the
media are giving the wrong signals to whoever watches or listens related to
sexual behavior and perceptions. He uses
current examples from the music industry, cinema, TV, internet, and he doesn’t
forget the phones. There’s plenty of
research on the lasting behavioral effects related to the using those examples
as role models. There’s no ranting here though. He’s interested in dealing with the parents so
that they can help their kids make wiser choices for their own lives. Boundaries, responsibility, balanced
responses---things like that. Things
that we all can do to help right now, and hopefully established open channels
for the future.
What I found most helpful wasn’t his stating that there’s
bad stuff out there that’s billed as cool, but was the way to handle yourself
when you either discover evidence of poor choices being made, or when your
child asks those questions that require rational, truthful answers. How not to freak out. (Basic communication skills that go out the
window, sometimes.) Talk to your kids,
often. The themes you meet early in this
book and you will revisit regularly.
I do recommend this book and wish it had been written long
ago.
This book was provided by the publisher in exchange for a
review.
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